Adult Child Quiz

IF YES:
Adult children are used to being self sufficient and it may seem easier to opt out of a course of action completely rather than to ask for help. Adult children struggle to delegate and often suffer from burnout that comes with a chronic work overload. This is linked to limiting beliefs of “I have t do everything by myself’ or “I can’t rely on anyone else.”
IF NO:
You do not share this common adult child characteristic.

IF YES:
Adult children tend to take on too much responsibility for situations and people’s behaviours. They feel compelled to make excuses for the dysfunction and disappointment and live in the hope that things will get better if they can just be good, do the right things, look after everyone and make things better. This is linked to the key “If I were better (thinner, smarter, stronger etc) it would be better” limiting belief. So many adult children live in a reactive state of way of being, rather than being proactive and planning a life they would like to live, they constantly feel that they are somehow to blame when things go wrong and responsible for making it better.
IF NO:
You do not share this common adult child characteristic.

IF YES:
Adult children tend to have a strong fear of not being good enough. This, combined with the unconscious need to better themselves, causes anxiety. Some adult children struggle to see when the problem is their environment and others, not themselves, and therefore when they need to change the situation, not themselves.
IF NO:
You do not share this common adult child characteristic.

IF YES:
The tendency of adult children is to be super-responsible - and at times super-irresponsible - because it is what they are used to doing or because they have had enough of being responsible in their childhoods. Adult children tend to struggle to say no and set boundaries partly because they do not know their own limitations – taking on too many projects and commitments and feeling that they have to do everything perfectly. They may resent some or all responsibilities, yet keep on with them.
IF NO:
You do not share this common adult child characteristic.

IF YES:
Big tasks may seem overwhelming and adult children can easily feel discourage by minor setbacks and challenges that are inevitable in any project. Adult children have a tendency to procrastinate usually because of a need to do everything perfectly. This unnecessary and relentless pressure to be the best can be immobilising, resulting in adult children leaving a task to the last minute when there is no other alternative but to complete it as well as possible in the short time available – which is a handy ‘out’.
IF NO:
You do not share this common adult child characteristic.

IF YES:
Adult children are very loyal, even when it is clear that they loyalty is misplaced. They find it hard to allow themselves to change their minds or to do things for themselves, but easily go along with changes made by others.
IF NO:
You do not share this common adult child characteristic.

IF YES:
Adult children tend to believe that other people’s feelings are more important than their own. They see having feelings as being out of control and weak and they don’t tend to stop long enough to reflect on their own emotional state, preferring to keep themselves very busy and distracted.
IF NO:
You do not share this common adult child characteristic.

IF YES:
Adult children tend to get distracted by other people’s drama and tend to take care of their partner/colleague/family members’ needs before their own. They are good at giving but struggle with accepting love, care and attention. This is linked to a childlike fear that if they are no longer needed, they will be forgotten.
IF NO:
You do not share this common adult child characteristic.

IF YES:
Adult children often don’t allow themselves to acknowledge their emotional discomfort, sadness, or anger which often can be somatised into physical symptoms. This often result s in stress-related illnesses.
IF NO:
You do not share this common adult child characteristic.